Short on Space, Long on Hungry Kids: Storing Bulk Buys in a Small Kitchen

Monday, September 1, 2014




I only have three kids but I might as well be feeding an army. It took me an awful long time to understand why people shop at warehouse stores. That one little bag of Pirate's Booty from the supermarket barely lasts the ten minutes it takes me to put the groceries away. In our old apartment, we had tons of cabinet space so shopping in bulk was no problem. In our little cottage, however, it is a different story.


See this? This is my "pantry." It's all I've got...my one other cabinet holds our drinking glasses, small dishes and mixing bowls. I have a little shelf to the left of this cabinet where I put our bananas, and containers of spices. 

So, I stopped buying in bulk. But I finally reached my breaking point this summer. Having the kids home all day, everyday meant that I couldn't keep any food in the house--it was all flying out the kitchen in a day or two. Kids have a fast metabolism and since I try to keep my kids active, it's inevitable that they'll be hungry throughout the day. It's annoying and expensive but I can't blame them. 

With the new school year rolling around, I knew I had to do something-- besides the fact that I wanted snacks to last longer, I wanted to stop spending so much on them! If I was going back to warehouse shopping, I not only needed to make the food last for a month but I also needed a place to put all the stuff. And that's when I decided that I would just ration the food, not just to make it last but to also get it to fit in this tiny cabinet (just barely, as you can see from the photo above). 

I did not go to the warehouse and buy a jar of mayo big enough to last us ten years, nor do I ever buy anything fresh there (gross...).  I stuck strictly to snacks for the lunchbox and for after school. I bought a giant thing of raisins, snap pea crisps, granola bars, trail mix, rice rolls, and animal crackers. 

When I got home, I calculated how many servings I could dole out every week to make it last all month by dividing the number of servings by four, then doubling or tripling that amount to account for each kid, each week. So, what you see in the ziplock bags above is one weeks' worth of each kind of snack. The trail mix is a hot commodity and would disappear in seconds if the kids had unfettered access to it. Because of that, I divided the servings of trail mix into two ziplock bags, and labeled each one with the girls' names. I told Alice and Stella that they could have as much trail mix as they wanted but if they ran out before the coming weekend, too bad! They'd have to wait before I would refill the bags. 

After sorting a weeks' worth of snacks, I put the packages of food into a storage bin that lives in my laundry room-slash-utility closet-slash-supply closet off the kitchen. (The animal crackers came in a huge plastic container so I transferred those to ziplock bags.) 


We're entering the first week of school for both kids (Alice started last week, Stella starts Wednesday), so we'll see how it goes. I have high hopes that my little experiment will work because I am not going to the warehouse more than once a month. In a similar vein, I plan to avoid the grocery store until this coming weekend. Menu Mondays will return next week, but after a summer of not really planning out meals, I'm really sick of running to the store every couple of days-- it's terrible for the wallet, too! 


The Stories

Tuesday, April 1, 2014


I have a strong recollection of my grandmother telling me that she was a fur coat model when she met my grandfather. She said my grandfather used to come into the shop and she wouldn't give him the time of day.

I have no idea now if my memory is true. I don't question whether my grandmother was confused or got the details wrong because she pretty much always had her faculties but I do wonder if I misremember our conversation because to everyone else, she was a shoe model!

Clearly, the moral here is to write everything down or get it on tape. My grandmother isn't here to back me up and quite frankly, my word doesn't count for much! I'm notorious in our family for either not remembering something at all, or for remembering it wrong. Throw in the inevitably of my not hearing something correctly and my credibility is shot when it comes to family stories. I pretty much never get the benefit of the doubt.

As infuriating and annoying as that is, I get it, I really do!

Whether or not this is you, it still pays to write the stories down and have a record. These stories, these little details are what makes each family special and give each family it's place in history. Sometimes the stories are hard. The great-grandfather I was named after, he committed suicide. I wish I knew more about the circumstances but I never felt like I could ask my grandpa about it. I don't even know how I know about it, and right now, I'm not even certain that someone won't chime in to tell me that I've got all it wrong. Hindsight is 20/20 but when you're a teenager, hindsight is not even a concept that exists. If I knew then what I know now and all that jazz!

My great uncle Al was a meticulous note taker. He was also a record keeper and a hoarder. Thanks to him, we know so much about my mother's side of the family, enough to figure out a lot of the missing pieces through research. I was not as close to this side of the family growing up, so I love discovering fascinating details like my great grandmother being a caterer and the fact that my great grandfather left behind a whole other family (wife and kids!) in Lebanon when he came here. On the surface, these are details that are unique to our family but dig a little deeper and they become artifacts of history. My great grandmother's catering business was key to surviving the Great Depression, and she was part of an era in which people did whatever they needed to do to make a living. It was also fortunate that the family lived in a factory town, with jobs available during wartime, and between wars as well. The family that my great grandfather left behind is a clue to the emigration patterns of the late 1800s and early 1900s. Emigration to the US, from certain regions, was also an escape from something--usually oppression or economic depression.

All our individual stories can be threaded together to form a "big picture" view of our collective American history in a way that complements and deepens our understanding what we learn in history class. Understand history to make sense of the present and create a vision for the future. 
All this to say, become a record keeper and story writer. Your future selves will thank you. 


Leading with Acceptance: Q&A with Nancy Rose!

Wednesday, January 8, 2014



I am the mother of a three year old. A very THREE three year old. Two wasn't so bad and Stella is a pretty sweet kid as far as kids go but man oh man, three has been kicking my tush. The temper, the impatience, the whining...you get it. I know you parents out there are nodding your heads in agreement, and if you're not, I'm going to guess you haven't had a three year old yet!

How many times have I said to myself, "Jeez, I wish Stella would be more mellow," or "Argh, this kid needs to get it together!" It's kind of comical now that I'm typing it out. The idea of trying to make a three year old be anything other than herself is an exercise in futility, and not healthy, to boot.

So, when I saw the title of Nancy Rose's book, I said "cha-ching! That is my problem--I'm not meeting Stella where she is!" It's funny because as a teacher, the mantra was always "meet the kids where they are and take them where you want them to go" but somehow, I'd forgotten about that with my own children.

Today, Nancy Rose is stopping by with some answers to questions I posed for her. Check out the book tour schedule at the bottom of this post for an opportunity to win her book in a giveaway!

Before I get to the Q&A with Nancy Rose, check out this clip from The Today Show:


A big thank you to Nancy for answering these questions for me! If you'd like to connect with Nancy, her information follows at the bottom. 
Q: What do you say to parents who, even after reading your book, insist "but I know what's best for my child!"?
A: Leading with acceptance doesn’t mean that parents don’t know what’s best for their 
children. We do know what’s best for them when it comes to their BEHAVIOR. 
It’s a good thing we do, too, because as parents, we need to be leaders who guide our 
kids’ behavior. For example, your two year old fights you about holding his hand while 
crossing a busy street. You know what’s best for him (staying safe by the BEHAVIOR of 
holding your hand).
But, we don’t know what’s best for them when it comes to WHO THEY ARE. We can’t 
change certain traits and preferences and we can do great harm if we try to. If your two 
year old melts down when you require him to hold your hand while crossing, you can’t 
make him less intense by saying, “Why do you always have to make such a big deal out 
of it?” (trying to get him to be more like his mellow sister). 
Q: How do we strike a balance between being emotionally present for our children and taking care of our needs? Sometimes, we just really need to make a phone call!
A: Emotional presence means being able to handle the full range of your child’s emotions, 
including the difficult ones. One part of being emotionally present is giving time and 
undivided attention, but not 24/7 (this does not apply to infants.) It does not mean 
centering everything around your child and putting your needs last. Children thrive when 
they know they are part of something bigger than themselves, and it’s important for 
them to learn that they are not the center of the universe, or even of the family. They are 
a “citizen of the family” just like every other family member, and everyone’s needs are 
important.
Q: My friend is in the middle of a food battle with her three year old. At what point should she say, "enough is enough" and be more forceful in encouraging her daughter to accept more variety in her diet?
A: It’s hard to respond without knowing more details, but I can share this about food 
battles: just like other “hotspots” in the parent-child relationship, it is useful to use 
leading with acceptance to determine what part of the conflict is due to the CoreSelf of 
the child and what part is due to behavior. This technique is explained in Chapter 6 of 
the book. 
A picky eater may have low Adaptability, low Ease with the Unfamiliar, high Regularity, 
and/or high Sensory Reactivity. Let’s assume that this child is reluctant to try new things 
in general (low Ease with the Unfamiliar). The parents should accept this trait. Here’s 
how they might lead with acceptance: “Sweetie, I understand that trying new foods 
isn’t easy for you. At the same time, it’s my job as your mommy to make sure you stay 
healthy and strong. Maybe you and I could look at pictures of food together and you 
can pick out some things that look yummy enough to try sometime.” Contrast that with 
power struggles, which are so easy to fall into, or criticism of the child for being “too 
picky,” or begging or bribing the child to eat.
Q: My husband works at Yale, and if my children were to be accepted into Yale, their 
college education would be free. How do I resist the impulse to push them towards 
wanting to go to Yale? Should I resist it?
A: Very interesting question. :) It’s natural to want to take advantage of such an incredible 
benefit! That said, if the expectation is that your kids go to Yale, you’re asking for 
trouble, so I would resist the impulse to push them. I would, however, have honest 
dialogue in the family, once the kids are old enough, explaining the situation and letting 
them know that it could be a huge win/win for everyone…IF IT IS THEIR CHOSEN 
PATH.

Connect with Nancy Rose! 

Visit Nancy Rose's website to receive a free copy of The 9 Traits of The Core Self, which is the cornerstone of her book! {I received a complimentary copy of Nancy Rose's book for review purposes.} 

Virtual Book Tour Schedule

January 6 Review at Home and Never Alone
January 7 Author Q&A and giveaway at  The Seeds of 3 Review and giveaway at Nap Time is My Time
January 8 Author Q&A The Real Nani
January 9 Review and giveaway at Tales from the Crib
January 10 Review and giveaway at A Magical Mommy
Excerpt at Houseful of Nicholes
January 13 Review at Jodifur
Excerpt at Chewsy Lovers
January 14 Excerpt at Mommy Works A Lot
January 15 Author Q&A at Say It, “Rah-shay”
January 16 Excerpt and giveaway at Cupcake Kelly’s
January 17 Review and giveaway at Janeane’s World Review and giveaway at Honest&Truly!
»

The Real Nani All rights reserved © Blog Milk Powered by Blogger